wow wow wow I loved this one. Useless time is something I think about, long for, and try to rearrange my life to create all the fucking time. I miss the days hanging out in the Kmart with friends as a teen, the hours of Jackbox games and bad movie screenings on Zoom in 2020. But as much as I do conspire to steal time and laze around and recapture those magic moments, I find I usually can't, because of course my friends and loved ones are always so damn busy. When we do get to while away an afternoon in a diner or on the beach, it's heaven. But I always get that anxiety of needing to go back home to do "something" itching at the back of my neck.
This is faboluous. It is strange indeed to be the parent of a tween and be pulling for him to do all the kinds of time-wasting stuff I did at his age. (Even a bunch of kids watching the same TV show seems precious now). Something I think about a lot is how all the discourse about how much work being a parent is is that it's self-fufilling and negates the wonderful uselessness of so much of it - the inside jokes, the endless snacks, the weird moments of bliss that break out mid-sibling argument.
It's funny, I've been reminiscing about lockdown times a lot recently and I don't really know why. It was a very difficult time for everyone of course and for me in that I lost my job and got depressed and drank way too much but I also goofed around with the people in my bubble and made stupid puzzles and watched stupid TV and read books I didn't learn anything from and now every time I do something 'useless' I feel like I'm wasting time. I didn't really realise why lockdown has been lingering for me so much at the moment, but this has given me a new angle on it, so thanks!
how do i change this mindset within myself? i feel real pressure to always be honing my skills for my career and i enjoy doing it. i prioritize wellness, and thats productive. i enjoy being active. the only times ive felt present into something “nonproductive” is playing with my younger siblings and that still is productive play! i’m more confused now than ever on how to have NON-Time because everything i enjoy brings some benefit, or i’ve been conditioned to find the benefit.
feeling deeply held by the energy in this, having lived and loved as well the particular haze of smoking weed as a high schooler let loose in upper manhattan
Went to LaGuardia (class of ‘10) and this brought back so many memories !! Hanging out at the Barnes and nobles Starbucks without buying anything / walking to the park /sitting on the Juilliard steps / getting caught in riverside drinking 40s … grateful to have had that time before we were constantly on our phones.
wow wow wow I loved this one. Useless time is something I think about, long for, and try to rearrange my life to create all the fucking time. I miss the days hanging out in the Kmart with friends as a teen, the hours of Jackbox games and bad movie screenings on Zoom in 2020. But as much as I do conspire to steal time and laze around and recapture those magic moments, I find I usually can't, because of course my friends and loved ones are always so damn busy. When we do get to while away an afternoon in a diner or on the beach, it's heaven. But I always get that anxiety of needing to go back home to do "something" itching at the back of my neck.
This is faboluous. It is strange indeed to be the parent of a tween and be pulling for him to do all the kinds of time-wasting stuff I did at his age. (Even a bunch of kids watching the same TV show seems precious now). Something I think about a lot is how all the discourse about how much work being a parent is is that it's self-fufilling and negates the wonderful uselessness of so much of it - the inside jokes, the endless snacks, the weird moments of bliss that break out mid-sibling argument.
yess. ive heard from many parents that they have to convince their kids to do nothing now / go be reckless / etc. sad :(
It's funny, I've been reminiscing about lockdown times a lot recently and I don't really know why. It was a very difficult time for everyone of course and for me in that I lost my job and got depressed and drank way too much but I also goofed around with the people in my bubble and made stupid puzzles and watched stupid TV and read books I didn't learn anything from and now every time I do something 'useless' I feel like I'm wasting time. I didn't really realise why lockdown has been lingering for me so much at the moment, but this has given me a new angle on it, so thanks!
Excellent view of reality. Thank you.
how do i change this mindset within myself? i feel real pressure to always be honing my skills for my career and i enjoy doing it. i prioritize wellness, and thats productive. i enjoy being active. the only times ive felt present into something “nonproductive” is playing with my younger siblings and that still is productive play! i’m more confused now than ever on how to have NON-Time because everything i enjoy brings some benefit, or i’ve been conditioned to find the benefit.
feeling deeply held by the energy in this, having lived and loved as well the particular haze of smoking weed as a high schooler let loose in upper manhattan
Went to LaGuardia (class of ‘10) and this brought back so many memories !! Hanging out at the Barnes and nobles Starbucks without buying anything / walking to the park /sitting on the Juilliard steps / getting caught in riverside drinking 40s … grateful to have had that time before we were constantly on our phones.